Bridal Shower ·

When Do You Have a Bridal Shower?

by Bethany Wysolmerski

The Best Time to Host a Bridal Shower

If you're asking, “When do you have a bridal shower?”—you’re not alone. Whether you're the bride, host, or a close friend helping with plans, timing is everything. A bridal shower is typically held anywhere from two weeks to three months before the wedding, depending on the couple’s schedule, the guests' availability, and the location of the event.

Let’s walk through the optimal timeframe, hosting etiquette, and how far in advance you should send invitations, book vendors, and prepare for the big celebration.

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Ideal Bridal Shower Timeline

Most bridal showers are held anywhere between one and three months before the wedding. This gives guests plenty of time to RSVP, shop for gifts, and make travel arrangements, while also allowing the bride to enjoy a relaxing and meaningful celebration without feeling overwhelmed.

If you’re wondering “when should you have a bridal shower before the wedding?”, here’s a general timeline:

  • 3 Months Before: Ideal for destination weddings or out-of-town guests
  • 2 Months Before: The sweet spot for most couples
  • 1 Month Before: Works well for local guests and more casual celebrations
  • 2–3 Weeks Before: Possible for last-minute plans, but may feel rushed

Factors That Influence When to Have a Shower

Choosing when to host a bridal shower depends on a few key details:

  • Location: If many guests are traveling, give them advance notice
  • Host’s Schedule: Factor in planning, prep time, and vendor coordination
  • Bride’s Timeline: Avoid piling on events close to the wedding day
  • Seasonal Considerations: Spring and summer are popular, but fall showers can be cozy and chic

How Far in Advance Should the Bridal Shower Be?

The sweet spot is 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding. This gives the couple time to enjoy the moment and still leaves room for last-minute wedding to-dos.

Still asking “how far in advance should you plan a bridal shower?” Here’s a quick planning checklist:

  • 3+ Months Out: Choose a date, book a venue
  • 2 Months Out: Send invites, order decor
  • 1 Month Out: Confirm guest count, plan food and games

Best Time of Day for a Bridal Shower

Bridal showers are typically held during the daytime. The most common options include:

  • Late Morning: Brunch showers with mimosas are a favorite
  • Afternoon: Ideal for tea parties, picnics, or outdoor garden themes
  • Early Evening: More modern, elegant showers with cocktails and passed hors d'oeuvres

The best time of day for a bridal shower really depends on the theme, menu, and guest preferences.

Coordinating With Other Wedding Events

When planning the shower, keep other events in mind:

  • Bachelorette Party: Don’t schedule too close to this event, especially if guests are overlapping
  • Engagement Party: Typically held earlier, so avoid doubling up in the same weekend
  • Rehearsal Dinner: The bridal shower should always come first

And yes, it’s okay to ask, “how long before the wedding should you have the bridal shower?”—this ensures you’re not overwhelming the couple or guests.

When to Host a Virtual Bridal Shower

If you're planning a virtual event, you may want to host it slightly earlier—about 8 to 10 weeks before the wedding. This gives time for guests to receive any mailed gifts or decor kits, and accounts for time zone differences.

Virtual showers still follow traditional etiquette, but allow for more flexibility in timing and participation.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can you have a bridal shower a week before the wedding?

Yes, but it’s not ideal unless the couple has a tight schedule. Try to allow at least two weeks.

Is it okay to have a bridal shower 3 months before the wedding?

Absolutely. Many hosts choose this timeline to give plenty of planning time for everyone involved.

Can you have your bridal shower after the wedding?

It’s uncommon but acceptable in nontraditional situations, like destination weddings or elopements.

How long should a bridal shower last?

Plan for 2 to 3 hours. That’s enough time for mingling, games, food, and gift opening without it feeling drawn out.

What’s the latest you can host a bridal shower?

A week or two before the wedding is usually the latest. Beyond that, the bride will likely be focused on final wedding prep.

Make the Shower Unforgettable with Rubi and Lib

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