Bridal Shower ·

Do You Have to Have a Bridal Shower?

by Bethany Wysolmerski

Is a Bridal Shower Necessary?

If you're asking yourself, “Do I have to have a bridal shower?”—you’re not alone. While bridal showers are a longstanding tradition, they’re not a requirement for getting married. Whether you host one, skip it entirely, or choose an alternative celebration is completely up to you.

In this post, we’ll explore the purpose of a bridal shower, who usually has one, and how to decide what’s best for your wedding journey. You’ll also discover modern options that feel more authentic to your personality and lifestyle.

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Why Do People Have Bridal Showers?

The traditional purpose of a bridal shower is to “shower” the bride with love, advice, and gifts as she prepares for marriage. It’s often one of the first big wedding-related events where close friends and family come together in celebration.

Common reasons brides choose to have a shower include:

  • Spending quality time with loved ones before the wedding
  • Receiving gifts for the home or honeymoon
  • Sharing excitement about the upcoming marriage
  • Being celebrated by those who support their journey

Is a Bridal Shower Required?

Absolutely not. You don’t need a bridal shower to have a beautiful, meaningful wedding. In fact, more couples are skipping traditional pre-wedding events in favor of more personal, intentional celebrations—or none at all.

If you're not into being the center of attention or don’t love structured gatherings, it's completely acceptable to opt out.

Why You Might Choose Not to Have a Shower

Every couple is different, and your wedding planning experience should reflect your lifestyle, budget, and values. Here are common reasons people skip the shower:

  • You're having a destination wedding: Guests are already investing time and money to attend.
  • You have a small or private guest list: A shower may feel unnecessary.
  • You’re planning other events: Like a bachelorette trip or engagement party.
  • You’re not comfortable with gift-giving traditions: Especially if you already live together and have what you need.
  • You want to keep things simple: Less planning, less pressure, more peace of mind.

Modern Bridal Shower Alternatives

If the idea of a traditional bridal shower doesn’t speak to you, you’re not out of options. There are so many ways to celebrate that feel authentic and fun without following the classic mold.

Here are a few modern ideas:

  • Brunch with besties: A casual meal out instead of a formal event.
  • Backyard wine tasting or tea party: Chic, low-key, and personalized.
  • Experience-based celebration: Think spa day, pottery class, or a group yoga session.
  • Joint shower with the groom: Also known as a “Jack and Jill” shower—co-ed and full of shared memories.
  • Giftless gathering: Focus on fun and friendship, not presents.

When Do You Have a Bridal Shower If You Want One?

Most bridal showers are held about one to three months before the wedding. This gives guests enough time to RSVP, and the bride plenty of time to focus on last-minute wedding details after the event.

If you're planning a non-traditional event, you can adjust this timeline to fit your schedule—there are no hard and fast rules!

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I have to have a bridal shower before my wedding?

No! It's entirely optional. Many brides choose not to have one or opt for an alternative celebration.

Can I have a bridal shower if I don’t want gifts?

Absolutely. Just let guests know on the invite that their presence is all that’s requested, or consider a “no gifts” or “experience-focused” gathering.

Is it rude to decline a bridal shower if someone offers to throw one?

Not at all. Just express your appreciation and explain that you'd prefer to celebrate in a different way—or not at all.

Can I have a bachelorette party instead of a bridal shower?

Yes! Many brides opt for a girls’ trip, night out, or spa weekend instead of a shower. Do what feels most meaningful to you.

Can you combine a bridal shower with another event?

Yes, especially if guests are traveling. Consider combining it with an engagement party or a casual get-together that celebrates multiple milestones.

Plan a Bridal Shower That’s All About You

Whether you're dreaming of a full celebration, something simple, or nothing at all, your bridal shower should feel personal—not obligatory. And if you do want to host a thoughtful, stylish gathering, Rubi and Lib has everything you need to make it unforgettable.

At Rubi and Lib, we specialize in helping you celebrate life’s most memorable moments with personalized wedding and party decor designed to reflect your unique style. From custom cocktail napkins and frosted plastic cups to bar signs and party favors, our curated collections are created to elevate your celebration and leave a lasting impression on your guests.

Whether you’re planning a wedding, bridal shower, bachelorette party, baby shower, or birthday bash, our products add a thoughtful, stylish touch that turns an ordinary gathering into an unforgettable event. Many of our designs feature custom illustrations—including pet portraits—so your decor feels as one-of-a-kind as your story.

As a women-owned small business, we’re passionate about making the ordering process seamless and enjoyable. Every item is crafted with care and attention to detail, and most of our products are made in the USA. We believe celebrations should feel personal, joyful, and stress-free—that’s why we’re here to help you create meaningful moments, one custom detail at a time.

Explore our best sellers, discover customer favorites, or reach out for something truly unique. At Rubi and Lib, your celebration is our inspiration.

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